A life change or event is considered to be an occurrence that is likely to bring about temporary or permanent readjustment and would require a change in usual activities or routine (Holmes & Rahe 1967). At some point in life we all experience changes which can be difficult or stressful to cope with. In most cases, we cope with these changes and adapt accordingly. However, sometimes the stress and anxiety of these events can get too much. It is important to remember that feelings of being overwhelmed by events can be in response to positive life changes such as getting married.
In general, negative life changes tend to have a negative impact on your overall wellbeing and positive changes tend to have a positive impact. However, an overall increase in the number of changes experienced in general, can increase your risk for more negative outcomes even if some of these events are considered to be positive (Cleland, Kearns, Tannahill & Ellaway 2016).
Life changes which are difficult to cope with or adjust to can cause higher levels of stress. They can also lead to the development of unhelpful coping behaviours such as poor diet choices, lack of sleep, isolation and an increase in consumption of drugs or alcohol. Life changes can also have a negative impact on our immune systems. To read more about stress and how to cope with it see here or here.
- Try to maintain a healthy routine. Making good choices when it comes to diet and exercise can make a world of difference to how you experience the world and your wellbeing. Sticking to some sort of structure during the week can provide some much needed predictability which can be helpful when a life change is occuring.
- Try techniques such as meditation or mindfulness to help combat life event induced stress. (See here)
- Acknowledge this life change. By trying to name and accept that things are changing, you may find the event easier to deal with and find ways of gaining some control over what is happening.
- Try to see any silver linings. Sometimes it can be difficult to identify positives following a difficult change in life, but trying to consider the positive outcomes as well as the negatives may help to improve how you feel about the change. Often we learn a great deal during times of stress and develop resilience.
- Seek support if you need to. Everyone is different and it is ok to feel anxious or stressed about a promotion or the birth of your baby. If you feel like you are struggling to adjust to change, reach out to someone to talk to. This could be a friend, family member or a healthcare professional. Additional support during this time will help you to better manage the change.